Council Blog
We are the St. Mary Huntley Knights of Columbus in Huntley, IL.

I’ve been contemplating the mystery of the Trinity a lot lately, of the triune nature of God. I was planning to talk about God the Father this month when, coincidentally, I was listening to Fr. DiTomo’s homily from this last Sunday, “The Trinity for Dummies” in which he talked about ‘how do we speak about the Trinity in a way we aren’t committing heresy?’ So in the interest of not committing heresy, I’ll just share some of my own perspectives on how I’m understanding God the Father, and why maybe it matters here with Father’s Day just around the corner.

I don’t know if you’re like me, but I have lately found myself in church, or alone in prayer, trying to decide which aspect of God to pray to: the Father? The Son? The Holy Spirit? Does it depend on what I’m praying about, what I’m asking for, what I want to talk about? Like “for intercession, press 1. For examination of conscience, press 2. For information on planning, press 3.”

That’s kind of goofy, isn’t it?

I can always just pray to God in general, cover my bases, right? I could, but I figure our faith brings us acknowledgement of the triune
God for a reason. I mean, it must matter, right? So then I find it fascinating to contemplate.

So, then…how best to understand God the Father? I guess I gained great insight on that as I reflected on my own journey of fatherhood. You may or may not be a father, but if you are, much of this will sound familiar, I suspect. Probably even if you aren’t, but you reflect back on your own dad, or fathers you know, this will resonate with you.

So how might we think about an earthly father to understand God the Father?

• A good father loves His children no matter what. He may get mad at them, he may have to punish them, but it always comes from love.
• A good father tries His best to teach his children right from wrong. He knows they won’t always get it right, but he wants to make sure they have the tools to tell right from wrong, so they have a better chance of making good choices.
• A good father conceives of a plan for each of His children for success in life. He bases it on who they uniquely are, because He
knows every one of His children is different (regardless of if you raise them the same, they just come out different, don’t they?). He knows, from His experience and wisdom, what will be more likely to set them up for success than not, and he tries to guide them into making the choices that align with His plan, BUT…
• A good Father also gives His children the opportunity to make their own choices. He could force them into following His plan to the letter, but His children are each their own person, and if he doesn’t give them that freedom, then the successes they might experience would be hollow. It would be Him living vicariously through them, not them living their life. AND
• A good father always forgives His children when they mess up. He knows it’s inevitable that they’ll make mistakes, but all he asks is that they be honest with Him, tell Him the truth, and be sorry, and all is forgiven. He forgives them, forgets their mistakes, rejoices with them, and sends them on their way again.
• A good father always takes care of his children, and answers their requests, but not necessarily by giving the children what they ask for. He knows what’s best for them, and as long as
they’re trying to be good children, he’ll tip the scales in their favor (in ways the children may or may not ever realize!).
• A good Father will stay in the background, letting His children take the spotlight. He’ll do all the thankless work behind the scenes, but he won’t step in front of them, because at the end of the day, seeing His children persevere and succeed will bring Him more joy than His own successes ever could.
• Finally, a good Father is always a call away. Even if He’s not with His children in person, He’s always willing to answer a call, at any hour of the day or night. Whether it’s just to listen, or to offer advice, or maybe to suggest a corrective course of action…He will ALWAYS pick up the line when one of His children calls…and He loves when they call.

• So, give your heavenly Father a Happy Father’s Day this year by maybe doing the following:

o Give Him a ring!
o Thank Him for making a plan for you, but trusting you with the freedom to make your own choices
o Thank Him for teaching you what you need to know about right and wrong
o Thank Him for the times when maybe He’s been a little tough on you, but for your own good
o Tell Him you love Him
o Thank Him for loving you, because He does
o Thank Him for never giving up on you, no matter what…because He never will.

Finally, I want to share a brief poem with you this Father’s Day week. It was written by my sister-in-law in 1995, when my dad passed away just a month before Father’s Day. I wanted to share it with you both as a reminder of the legacy a good father can leave for his family, and maybe as an inspiration for us fathers to strive even harder to do just that, or to appreciate our own fathers just a little bit more.

It sits alone, quietly yet prominently placed in the center of the hustle and bustle of the family room.
The aristocratic sheen of the burgundy leather has given way to dull wrinkles worn with comfort, worry and love.
The sunken cushions sweetly echo verses of humorous old tunes; they lumpily heave with tales of comrades lost in the war, and they are deeply creased with sage advice from a man of good intentions.
The understated, smooth arms of the chair remain strong and dignified - symbols of the humble man they supported in good and bad days gone by.
The smooth, tarnished brass rivets remain secure and intact. Abiding protectors of heartfelt family traditions, witty anecdotes and untold sorrows.
Tho its master has passed, the chair remains a constant reminder of a simple man who loved people. A man who believed the worth of a person came from the inside - giving no regard to titles, social standing, or wealth.
Like a candle in the darkness, the chair beckons us to come forth, sit, and think a while.
As its soft leather embrace warms our skin, the chair sadly yet lovingly imparts the wit and wisdom of a man we called "Dad."
For this, we thank you, old chair.

David Babicz
Lecturer, KofC Council #11666
June 14, 2022

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